People fail to look at the obvious biological facts. Infidelity meaning is just that, they just have an instinct to make more babies. Sex is a basic instinct to make more babies. So stop with all the emotional gibberish and get down to the biological facts so you can deal with it better.

I have been observing friends in anguish over this very simple matter of infidelity and its meaning. Why they are so wrapped up in their religious fantasies and moral shenanigans. Basic instinct, sex, has no morals. And the parties involved would rather burn in hell than not get what they want. What they want is more babies, sex is just the action that is required.

Take the case of a young mother with 2 children, married to a foreigner husband. Wife wants more babies, husband foreigner does not… he comes from a very contraceptive culture. Wife disagrees. Wife gets local male “lover” / baby maker.

Foreigner husband has young Filipina wife and has 1 child and 1 child only. Foreigner has 4 children elsewhere, his former wife, an old girl friend. Young wife goes bad, gets in fights with him, goes out at night partying… and rapes her husband as often as she can. She calms down… she’s 3 months pregnant. Peace and quiet for the husband. Just hope it’s his.

Wife has 2 kids with husband. Wife gets ligated / had her tubes tied. Husband then starts coming home 4am – 5am every single day. And what should he come home to? A wife who can only offer contraceptive sex? A wife who did not consult him but selfishly thought of herself only as she did not want any more children? What makes her think her husband only wants contraceptive sex for the rest of his life?

Humans have this basic instinct that sex is for making babies. And no modern contraceptive practices are going to demolish this basic instinct.

- Sex gets old with the same partner after a few months of no babies.
- Sex is tons of times more exciting if there is that possibility of babies.

Humans are survivors. Contraceptive men and women who do not want to have any more children will be left eating the dusts of infidelity by their partners who just want to have more babies.

And this brings me to the decisions that these couples must take. Again for the benefit of children. It is detrimental to keep divorcing, and divorcing and divorcing. Who’s going to take care of your mutual children?

The solution is to keep it all together. Addition, without subtraction.

This is a new age contraceptive society problem. The expectations are ridiculous. Just because you lead contraceptive lives where you get to have unlimited sexual intercourse without getting pregnant is just un-natural. Nature didn’t make sex that way. Unlimited sex without babies is monotonous not worth it sex… It gets old pretty quickly.

Wife had a hysterectomy after 2 children. Husband keeps his monogamous vows. Wife gets hornier and looks for an additional sexual partner… says husband should get his additional sex partner too.

Husband is devastated why this is happening to him and thinks of divorcing his wife. Wife can’t do any “harm”, her core being tells her she wants more babies. so she will have sex and sex and sex… but it will never ever be possibly due to her hysterectomy. And this is what her religious husband needs to understand. Keep it together. Her sexual thing will soon pass, she’s in her mid 40s.

Life isn’t black or white. If you are truly pro-family and pro-marriage, pro-life, you accept your situations and biological realities and still keep your living children at the top of your priorities. It’s addition without subtraction. Let the reproducers have at it. Men and women do not necessarily have equal number of babies between them. Live with that reality.

The happy ending of this blog post is that it benefits your mutual living children. Divorcing or completely dumping existing children to grandparents is foul and reeks of complete selfishness. We are educated humans and we need to overcome short sighted jealousies, the meaning of infidelity is they just want more babies… their very souls are craving for more babies. Those who have made their “quota” may selfishly refuse to understand this. But think of that time when you still hadn’t reached your baby quota. Now you know. Think.

Getting married should always be for the sake of the children. To make more children, to raise children, to guide children. Whatever quarrels or trials couples get into, which is usually cliché, just suck it up and keep your marriage intact and harmonious for the sake of your children.

For example, with the cliché situation husband has a third party whether it is a mistress, a girl friend, a one night stand, or prostitutes… this describes the cliché 99% of the males in the Philippines… if a wife decides she wants a separation because husband is in this cliché of having sex with another woman, then she needs to suck it up and change her “made for TV paradigm” of faithful monogamy or bust… because it is just plain dumb, stupid and idiotic to believe in this fairy tale of faithful monogamy or bust… this is just plain wrong.

Let me explain. If you put a tracking device and video camera in the butt of every Filipino male in his entire lifetime, then you may see the cliché 99% of male infidelity in action, which is enabled by their counterpart cliché of of Filipino women who heartily indulge in having sex knowingly, willingly and preferably with married men.

So the intactness of Filipino “Christian” marriages in the 21st century relies in instilling realistic expectations from Filipino first wives. These first wives need the experiential wisdom of mistresses that male infidelity is normal and something that needs to be accepted as this has been the Filipino reality and tradition for hundreds of years. Adoption of Catholic vows has not changed this biological wiring.

Don’t be the hag wife who makes unreasonable expectations of fidelity from husbands and be all to willing to sacrifice your sons and daughters to live a life of separated parents. Your personal pride vs the sake of the children should be a no brainer. Let me spell it out for you:

Stomp on your pride and suck it up for the sake of the children.

Don’t ask, don’t investigate, stop paying for private investigators to track down your husband. If you look for “it”, infidelity, you will surely see it. So just stop looking and just assume it.

My grandma kept her family intact by being sweet to my grandpa and had sex with my grandpa each and every time he asked for it. “I never say no” was my grandma’s moto. Something you first wives should learn. My grandma was the 2nd wife… the mistress… so yes, she knew, she knew.

Documentary from a Christian / secular point of view recognize and somewhat admire the success of the propagation of Islam. Not by evangelization or conquest, but via birth rates, higher fertility rates. And who to thank for the Islamic success? Islamic women! Yes, Islamic women have baby making power. Islamic women practice both monogamy and polygamy. Islamic women are less contraceptive. And it seems Islamic women are more family oriented. Success, success, success!

This is a wake up call to Christians or those who think they are Christian. These Christians can only think about evangelizing to others, but they cannot even shepherd their own flock. Christian / post christian / secular women make far less babies. Christian baby making systems suck, inferior. Christian women mostly suck at baby making. That is the wake up call.

Seems Islamic women are happier? Islamic family system makes for happier women? Islamic diets are more nutritious? Islamic women have more resolve to make more babies and raise more babies? Islamic women have better… higher quality sex? Or is it that Islamic women do not believe in the kind of sexual promiscuity being promoted in Christian / post Christian / secular societies? Maybe Islamic women are treated BETTER? Islamic women are happier?

Call to action? Make more babies. Contraception and promiscuity don’t work and only serve to obliterate families.

So, is it time to say, if you can’t beat em, join em?

Stop hating the Muslim women and admire them and point out what seems to be working for them. Maybe if your culture adopted some key aspects of Muslim women, you can still save your own culture.

This website is pro-marriage, pro-polygamy, pro-family, anti-divorce. Don’t let the narrow minded monogamy advocates shove out polygamy. Polygamy is marriage. And more so committed with even more conservative values. I believe in addition, not subtraction. For the good of the children, you as hell make your marriage work… not as facade, but for real.

Divorce is ridiculous. There is no biological divorce in the first place to speak of. Biologically that child is still part mother and part father, there is no divorcing that FACT. What is important is for people’s commitment to children and everything else will work.

A young raw paleo dieter from Poland is getting married soon and asks an innocent question about his true sexuality about monogamy and polygamy and what he is feeling lately.

This idea of mono/poly-gamy occupies my mind a lot recently. I am getting married this summer and it might be the reason why it kicks in now. Because, funny enough the closer it is to wedding date the more I am in touch with my raw male energy that includes approaching women I do not know, flirting, physical contact, taking risks, wanting to show off with my good qualities and impress women I am attracted to but do not know yet very well.

All of this was in the state of sleep before and it kicks in in this very moment. I know this might be a part of fear of commitment- I think everyone have it and need to deal with it. But on the other hand I do not find my emerging desires unhealthy or unwelcome. It is good to feel all of this, regardless of what voice of my culture and my own superego has to say about it. And in my own mind it is nothing untruthful and bad too. Because the interesting thing is that my love to my fiancée is at its peak right now. It is my conscious decision to marry her and existence this desires to flirt with other women does not mean that I do not love her or I got tired with her or anything else. I know it is how she would think when she happened to know about it (she does not) and she would feel hurt and let down and unloved. But the fact is: in my male eyes I do love her and respect her and appreciate her and still long for sexual contact with other women.

And I am in really fucked up situation about it because:
1) I cant even bring it up with her because even discussing about it would hurt her and could spoil our bond together
2) I cant just act my impulses out freely – it would be cheating – it is too stressful for me, and I have too much respect for her to risk the possibility of her embarrassment disappointment.
3) I can pretend everything is ok and give up this part of myself as I was doing my whole life, but hey it is a vital part of me that is real and very important. Maybe someone suggests that I should work on bringing back the fire between us, into the relationship. But I think it is not possible – 10year old relationship has different kind of “fire” – we still have great intimacy and sexual relationship but it is definitely not the same thing that I described in first part of this post.

So i start to wonder..is it me or has our culture gone astray in regards to our sexuality at some point? And it it is the case, what is ideal model? Because giving up marriage or lifetime relationships do not seem to work very well as we can see in swingers communities.

HOW MONOGAMY REALLY WORKS… hard truth.

Healthy men have abundant sex drive to go around. (you are raw paleo so you will have abundant sex drive until you die of old age)

You are normal. Your thoughts are normal.

I will give you a tip on how monogamous marriages really work in the 21st century and has so in the past 20th century:

1. Man really loves his wife. Wife (#1 wife material woman) really loves husband.

2. Wife initiates sperm wars before marriage and during marriage… see chick flick (movie) “Love Affair” 1994. Women like being DISCREET. Males like you must defend yourself by ensuring all the children she gives birth to are yours by DNA / Paternity Tests. If a child is not yours, you let your entire clan know woman has cheated your ENTIRE CLAN. Child is not your child, child is not their nephew, child is not their grandchild.

3. Man realizes wife does not match his continuous sex drive. Women do not like sex when it is menstruation related, when they are sick, when they are pregnant, when they have just given birth, when they don’t want additional children.

So man resorts to mistresses (you have a child with her), f*** buddies, prostitutes (now called escort services, massage parlor attendants, KTV girls, etc.)

The trick here is that the ideal monogamous man knows his #1 love and commitment of time, money, effort is his #1 wife. And the ideal monogamous man is DISCREET about all this. He does not advertise to his #1 love that he “gets it off” of other women. So make sure you have extra money for yourself, do not surrender all your money to your #1 wife, you have your own money for your sex budget… all the while still keeping your commitment to your #1 wife and #1 wife’s children.

The #2 and #3 women / mistresses are totally attracted to monogamous discreet males like you. They absolutely adore / love that you are happily married, that you are ENDORSED by a #1 woman. They just want a piece of your time and your sperm for their child. They don’t ask much like your #1 woman. If they want to be #1 you need to drop them. So do not give your complete identity and complete contact numbers to these women so they don’t go crazy and call your #1 wife. You don’t want that.

You can give a copy of the book ETIQUETTES for MISTRESSES by Julie Yap Daza to your mistresses so they know their place.

This is what I can say a template of how monogamous marriages / societies really work to balance out the sexual needs of people.

As you can see the women all just want a piece of you. They don’t want to be around you all the time. If you stick like a lizard to a woman she will feel choked to death, not able to breath, women need space, they don’t want a man to be there 100% of the time. It is this realization in ISLAM monogamy that a good number of wives is 3 to 4 wives per good man. If you talk with islamic women, they are happy with this arrangement and they like this arrangement. Same with FLDS women… see reality show “sister wives.”

The bottom line is you man — make lots of money — much much money — and no wife will complain. It is only when man lacks money that women complain. So make sure you make lots of money.

Message to my sons. Stop being a nice guy… a door mat. You will never get the girl that way. With hold your niceness and give some of it only if the girl deserves it. Pretty doesn’t cut it. There are tons of pretty girls out there. Girls know that. It’s a competitive arena for them over prize catches like you. SargeNation explains in this video:

and SerbAtheist explains it as well: Why are women attracted to jerks? Women are disgusted by nice guys.

Never lose sight that this is all part of the mating game. The truth about human behavior. What television and girls tell you young men to be nice is wrong. That is not how the real world works.

Read the cry for help of a friend to show studies that birth control pills are BAD for women’s health they are likely to suffer a myriad of lifetime disabilities and injuries.

andvanwyk asked:

Does anyone have any decent links showing the dangers of birth control pills? A friend of mine’s little sister is being forced on it by her parents. She’s 14 years old and might have to suffer a lifetime of gut dysbiosis etc. due to this, so we’d like to show the parents some good information and write ups about it before they jump head first into this decision.

and

ys answered:

you don’t need any links, it is all there in the fine print, either on the package or inside the package, just read side effects section, death is just one of the listed side effects.

Wow, talk about culture shock and Nazism. Nazi parents. Whatever happened to “FREEDOM” to choose… to be HEALTHY. Whatever happened to freedom to choose to have healthy natural reproductive baby making sex?

Oh I get it, in the 2011 contraceptive Nazi mindset, you can do any deviant sexual acts as long as you don’t get PREGNANT. As if PREGNANCY is the GREATEST EVIL IN THE WORLD!

There are loads of evidence against contraceptive birth control pills and related paraphernalia, drugs, hormones, patches, injectibles, etc. Here is a link to just one of them.

Just Say “No” to Birth Control Pills
By Carolyn Dean, M.D., N.D.

Being injured and dying and suffering at the hands of birth control pills is a BAD THING.

People need and want to reproduce, it is in our human nature… This is a GOOD THING. What needs to be done is to channel that reproductive life giving energy to something good. Marry off the children and have a family… this is a GOOD THING. At least you know who’s banging your daughter and you do approve of the guy banging your daughter… and you don’t call it banging anymore, it’s call making love… possibly making baby love… this is a GOOD THING. It’s what the ancient institution of marriage was for… Marriage is a GOOD THING. And parents get the bonus of becoming doting grandparents to nice cute grand kids. (or is having grandkids now out of fashion too? ) Babies and Grandchildren are GOOD THINGS.

The trick is, you don’t marry off a young girl to a young lad who has no financial ability. You can marry off the 18 year old girl to a 28-32 year old man who is well ready to settle down, makes a good living, can finance several children… this is a GOOD THING. The obscene culture of contraceptivizing children to contraceptively fornicate with fellow children hypergamously at the moment of their sexual awakening until their sexuality tapers off in their late 20s and 30s is just sick and obscene. And I’m saying this from a paleo diet and lifestyle health perspective.

No raw paleo dieter uber health buff will ever agree to these dangerous drugs called birth control pills. And for what? To worship at the feet of the contraceptive culture of PREGNANCY IS THE WORST THING IN THE WORLD that can happen to a teenage girl? So a sexually awakened healthy teenage girl is to be POISONED by proven track record very dangerous drugs so that her natural healthy sexuality is sabotaged so she can be temporarily neutered until she ages beyond her 30s and only then do you stop neutering her with these proven dangerous drugs so she can then “try” to make a baby?

In the twisted and evil contraceptive mindset of the 21st century, getting pregnant during the natural / biological / “God given” years of 14 to 28 are unacceptable TOO YOUNG ages. These ages are only fit for contraceptive sex since pregnancy and mothering at these ages are considered TOO YOUNG… and will supposedly DESTROY THE FUTURE of their daughters. Did you Christians know that God blessed Mary with the child Jesus at age 14? Or did you misread that and thought Mary was 40?

The brainwashing, the complete flipping, the complete opposite of GOOD and BAD and GOOD and EVIL is complete. 21st century people are bereft of any guidance. Yet you do not need to believe in the superstitions of deities when you follow HEALTH… TRUE HEALTH… as nature intended as your true GOD intended.

Being sexually awakened in the teenage years is NATURAL. It was only until 1990, that Philippine civil laws were changed to raise the marrying age from 14 to 18. Humans have not evolved that fast. 14 is a viable reproductive age, a sexual age. The peak reproductive ages of females is still around 18 to 24. Yet the twisted mindset of 2011 thinks getting married or getting pregnant between the ages 18 to 24 is the highest of tragedies for women!

All I care about is true health, the true nature of humans and the way our biology works. Living this life will be easier and in better harmony if you follow human biology and you adjust everything else. Instead of trying to twist human biology into something nature never intended it to go. You will and do get very bad consequences. Your women are sick, they slut around for many years, they become diseased and infertile, unmarried and alone. Of course this is all planned brainwashing programming by the powers that be circa NSSM 200. The brainwashing is complete. 1984 George Orwell was correct.

In case you missed it. Birth control pills are baaadddd for your health. Wish them on your enemies, not on your loved ones like your very own precious daughters.

You never know what personal story you unfold in the market stalls these days. Aren’t you curious about those women in the dry market goods section of your big wet market, the ones with the Islamic / Muslim fashion, with the shawls? I chanced upon to chat with a nice young lady this afternoon. She was 21, already had 5 children, is the 2nd wife of 4 Muslim wives. Astonishing and at the same time, thought it was pretty much true.

Hayni is from Iligan City and she says she got married at age 12. She says it was pretty normal even until today for Muslim women to get married at age 12, she says there are even 7 year old child brides. This is how she has 5 children at a young age of 21.

Hayni says she is the 2nd wife of 4 wives. She and her sister wives are all dry goods, clothes, baby clothes sellers in the same wet market. And their husband is too. I asked, if all of you are out selling and working, who is minding the children? She says her father and mother are. And there are a total 16 children among them 4 wives. Cool. Wow.

I’d like my daughters to get started marrying and making babies at 18 years old. But 12 is too young for my taste. Well, different strokes for different folks.

If you are complaining that the Muslim population is growing leaps and bounds beyond non-Muslims, you now know why. Muslim women are just darn happy baby makers. Unlike non-Muslim women who mostly dislike baby making so much. Non-Muslim women are usually over priced princesses who begin as contraceptive bimbos and try to delay making babies well into their 30s. Islamic women will win the future with their wombs! Viva Islamic women!

I just recently stumbled onto an American reality show courtesy of The Learning Channel or TLC of Discovery, aptly named “Sister Wives”. This is a show documenting the daily lives of a real fundamentalist mormon polygamist family. This is REAL, not the fiction that was HBO’s big love. Sister Wives is more interesting because this is REAL.

This reality show revolves around the 3 sister wives and their man / boy “plaything” husband who tries his best to serve all the wives and all the children. Note that everyone strives to serve everyone. The 2nd wife is a career woman and their combined income with the husband is enough somehow to feed the entire family of 16 when the season started. Later on we see the birth of their latest child. At the end of the season we see the family take in a 4th wife who already had 3 children from a previous marriage, oh happy day.

As a non USA citizen I have a better appreciation of this because I don’t have anything against Mormons or Fundamentalist Mormons or Polygamists. Muslims can have up to 4 wives in my country and mistressing is rife with the Christian population so it’s no big deal for this writer.

What did intrigue me is what I read about the outdated USA laws against polygamy, against people who want to live their lives the way they see fit and the state horning in and breaking up solid families like these in the past. Clearly, this so called “land of the free” is not free at all. This hypocritical USA laws strictly enforce a one to one / pairing arrangement be they man-woman, woman-woman, man-man. This USA hypocrites will push homosexual “marriages” and at the same time trample down the rights of polygamists. Such intellectual dishonesty!

What I can analyze from this show is this is what the polygamists are waiting for, some family brave enough to step into the spotlight and announce to the majority of the USA that we are the shining example of commitment to marriage, commitment to children, commitment to family… how dare you prosecute polygamists when we, we, we polygamists are the bastion, the rock, the guiding light for TRUE MARRIAGE… something only you divorce ridden Americans can only dream of.

I do note that in an old YouTube video, I had seen the 3rd wife in this show appear with a known polygamy advocacy lobbyist say test cases should be filed, “Bring it on.” So I can see clearly that season 2 of the show will high light the legal challenges to the family, the persecution they receive from the community that despises their kind. Already, their first wife had lost her job because of the show and the husband claims slow business.

I hope the popularity of the show generates enough income for the family so that they can continue to thrive.

If you haven’t seen any episode of the show, you can always download from the torrents or buy a complete DVD of season 1. It’s a beautiful documentary. You will fall in love with this family. They will teach you what true marriage, true family is all about.

I had always written many years ago that I am waiting for polygamy to be the knight in shining armor to save the world from childless, loveless, marriage-less, fornication ridden, decaying western society. Let the polygamists lead the way, to show the rest of humanity how its done. Polygamy is the time tested successful formula of community building. Oh I know the imperial depopulation conspirators are just so very angry with this show and what it could mean if polygamy catches on.

Bring it on, bring on Sister Wives Season 2: March 2011.

Visit the Sister Wives Official Website.

polygyny :A topic viewed with Taboo (from new Motherland FILM (2010) www.themotherland.info)is broken Down by Esther Stanford a progressive African specialist on Polgamy. Polygamy was and is a vital aspect of African culture. It was how nations and kingdoms were birthed. Beyond the taboo Europeans placed on it Polygamy was and is part of the African reality rooted in practicality. This is a bonus extract from the 2010 film MOTHERLAND by Owen Alik Shahadah,. www.themotherland.info.

Probably the best and most comprehensive explanation of why polygyny is pro-family and is better than rampant serial marriages, mistressing, prostitution.

Esther Stanford explains why strong economies are based on strong families and polygyny can form the foundation of a rich future for africans.

POLYGYNY | POLYGAMY – In Africa from Halaqah Films on Vimeo.

Polygamy/Polygyny expert Esther Stanford gives a sharp and profound scholastic food for thought on polygamy and African people.

Polygamy became taboo with Colonialism due to the conflict with inheritance in large families, the social-economic threat caused by increased African populations and the Eurocentric Christian values.
However today polygamy is still a reality and is becoming an option in the African Diaspora in response to a social dilemma. Polygamy within the framework of law and balance is a viable aspect of African family systems which is exited from Kemet to Sokoto.

Perception of African self has been so given to us by the “other” that it is hard to distinguish what is indigenous intelligence and what is a product of mental conditioning because of the European dynamic.

There is a great confusion around modernity with progress and development and too often Westernization or more specific Europeanization is collapses into modernity.

African people must objectively re-examine structures that were the backbone of their historical development in an attempt to successful engage in modernity.