People fail to look at the obvious biological facts. Infidelity meaning is just that, they just have an instinct to make more babies. Sex is a basic instinct to make more babies. So stop with all the emotional gibberish and get down to the biological facts so you can deal with it better.
I have been observing friends in anguish over this very simple matter of infidelity and its meaning. Why they are so wrapped up in their religious fantasies and moral shenanigans. Basic instinct, sex, has no morals. And the parties involved would rather burn in hell than not get what they want. What they want is more babies, sex is just the action that is required.
Take the case of a young mother with 2 children, married to a foreigner husband. Wife wants more babies, husband foreigner does not… he comes from a very contraceptive culture. Wife disagrees. Wife gets local male “lover” / baby maker.
Foreigner husband has young Filipina wife and has 1 child and 1 child only. Foreigner has 4 children elsewhere, his former wife, an old girl friend. Young wife goes bad, gets in fights with him, goes out at night partying… and rapes her husband as often as she can. She calms down… she’s 3 months pregnant. Peace and quiet for the husband. Just hope it’s his.
Wife has 2 kids with husband. Wife gets ligated / had her tubes tied. Husband then starts coming home 4am – 5am every single day. And what should he come home to? A wife who can only offer contraceptive sex? A wife who did not consult him but selfishly thought of herself only as she did not want any more children? What makes her think her husband only wants contraceptive sex for the rest of his life?
Humans have this basic instinct that sex is for making babies. And no modern contraceptive practices are going to demolish this basic instinct.
- Sex gets old with the same partner after a few months of no babies.
- Sex is tons of times more exciting if there is that possibility of babies.
Humans are survivors. Contraceptive men and women who do not want to have any more children will be left eating the dusts of infidelity by their partners who just want to have more babies.
And this brings me to the decisions that these couples must take. Again for the benefit of children. It is detrimental to keep divorcing, and divorcing and divorcing. Who’s going to take care of your mutual children?
The solution is to keep it all together. Addition, without subtraction.
This is a new age contraceptive society problem. The expectations are ridiculous. Just because you lead contraceptive lives where you get to have unlimited sexual intercourse without getting pregnant is just un-natural. Nature didn’t make sex that way. Unlimited sex without babies is monotonous not worth it sex… It gets old pretty quickly.
Wife had a hysterectomy after 2 children. Husband keeps his monogamous vows. Wife gets hornier and looks for an additional sexual partner… says husband should get his additional sex partner too.
Husband is devastated why this is happening to him and thinks of divorcing his wife. Wife can’t do any “harm”, her core being tells her she wants more babies. so she will have sex and sex and sex… but it will never ever be possibly due to her hysterectomy. And this is what her religious husband needs to understand. Keep it together. Her sexual thing will soon pass, she’s in her mid 40s.
Life isn’t black or white. If you are truly pro-family and pro-marriage, pro-life, you accept your situations and biological realities and still keep your living children at the top of your priorities. It’s addition without subtraction. Let the reproducers have at it. Men and women do not necessarily have equal number of babies between them. Live with that reality.
The happy ending of this blog post is that it benefits your mutual living children. Divorcing or completely dumping existing children to grandparents is foul and reeks of complete selfishness. We are educated humans and we need to overcome short sighted jealousies, the meaning of infidelity is they just want more babies… their very souls are craving for more babies. Those who have made their “quota” may selfishly refuse to understand this. But think of that time when you still hadn’t reached your baby quota. Now you know. Think.