I was impressed by Chris Rock’s comedy acts on youtube.com where he talks about relationships and how you can never make a woman happy. Seemed like a promotion for his 2007 movie “I think I love My Wife”. I thought it was a funny movie. I thought it to be a truthful movie. Some things real married men experience. Warning, spoilers coming…
The movie begins with a committed family man, our hero, but he and his wife have a big problem… big problem for him… but his wife does not care… as is usual… that they have not been having sex for quite a long time after their 2nd child was born. So our hero is under-sexed and every fertile female he sees he is attracted to and he fantasizes over. Pretty normal reaction if a man hasn’t had sex for x months.
Trouble begins when an old hot friend in need comes back in his life and causes him to behave like a teenage dog which almost cost him his job. The finale is when this aging 32 year old hottie decides to marry for money and invites our hero for a goodbye sex romp before she finally ties the knot and turns wifely good. Our hero buys a pack of condoms and rushes to the temptress but our hero backs out at the last minute when he sees his tie on his forehead reminding him of playtime with his kids.
Of course I do know “good boys” like these. Then there are the “bad boys” like his older colleague. The difference is the “bad boy” colleague lands many women condomically / contraceptively just like the “good boy” hero but the older colleague is made of hardier stuff… he doesn’t have a conscience.
The telling thing is that the main character was contraceptive. He bought himself a package of condoms for the temptress. From the point of view of pro-natal men… that was pretty LAME. Pro-natal men are not tempted by contraceptive temptresses. If the temptress were to promise the pro-natal man a kid cuckolding her future husband… that may have been tempting.
In the end, our hero was written down as delusional by their shrink when he said he and his wife were not having sex but it was okay with him. The ending suggests the hero and his wife finally did have sex.
In the real world of non-contraceptive societies, this kind of problem is easily solved. First of all, non-contraceptive cultures and cultures who are realistic and sensitive to the needs of both sexes factually know that men do indeed need some sex… not enormous quantities, just normal, not witholding him from sexual activity for months or years at a time because his only wife is “not ready”. Polygamy was openly accepted and practiced. The men kept their sanity. No temptresses or prostitutes were necessary, there was no market for them. Society kept its purity, its conservativeness, because women and men were sexually fulfilled. This still happens in Islam, Africans, the original Mormons, Christian polygamists and Asians but in a more discreet fashion.
I’m talking about pronatal – family men. Yes they kept 2 or more families and kept their sanity. Unlike the contraceptive – monogamous on paper societies today, with “liberated” behavior which shows inadequate, unfulfilled sexual needs.
Off camera, Polygamy would have been a better deal for Chris Rock’s character. He had a job that paid enormously well and he had money to raise a couple of economical wives instead of one ravenous consumer materialistic wife who would consume whatever amount of money her husband made.
But the polygamy solution would have been unpopular with the target audience of the movie. Chris Rock still needs to make money.
