07.29.07
Children are extensions of their parents’ lives
We were having breakfast this morning and my son wanted butter for his corn. Well I told him that the corn does not need any butter. So on and so forth.
My sister in law, the still single sister in law, to make a long story short says “Children are individuals, they are not extensions of you.”
I cleverly responded, “My children are individuals and they are extensions of me and my wife.”
Now that is parental authority affirming itself. That is at the heart of a true family system. It is not about legal definitions, family is about blood. I love my children because they are extensions of me and their mothers. By this point of view, I love all my children no matter what. I love my parents and grandparents no matter what. My children are extensions of myself, as I am an extension of my parents’ lives.
I’ve gotten to become the family healer and in the world of health, healing, this is absolutely true. The analysis of a persons’ conditions is not complete without studying the health conditions of his parents and grandparents. That is just the way things are.
Now the individualist mindset may choose to embrace his individualistic superstition all he wants, but that is them, not me, not my children. To each his own.
My children are extensions of myself and my wife’s lives. Why? Because I’m the father and I say so.
