01.16.07
Annoyed by grandma’s religion pushing and forced monogamy for all
Sunday was supposed to be my day reserved to healing my brother’s eczema. Until my grandmother called up and got into the picture. She rode a taxi to our house and relayed to me her dream. She had dreamt that she and I were lined up to church towards the priest when I stepped back and left her all alone. She said it was a premonition. And she wants to bring me into the fold.
She’s darn right about me turning my back on a religion she and my mother adhere to but which I totally disagree upon. The big disagreement I have with their religion is forced monogamy for all. One size fits all. No deviation. Lest you are a sinner and condemnable.
Well la dee da. I vehemently disagree with that monogamy as faith rule I have vowed never to let my children prey victim to false monogamy promises. Let me explain to you why. Of course I lectured my grandma in the language she understood, her own families and my own families. How monogamy works in the real world. At least in my families, it is a farce.
Monogamy is 1st wife centric selfish implementation of human sexuality. In the desire of a first wife to covet sole attention, she sets up laws and unreasonable expectation from her husband and her male children. This unreasonable expection is may you have sexual relations only with one woman, your wife from the time you are born until the time of your death. In short, monogamy unrealistically expects the MALE humans to have sex with only 1 FEMALE for his ENTIRE LIFESPAN. Unbelievable, scientifically false, and observably DISHONEST to the most condemnable depths!
This is why peaceful monogamy in reality works this way. Monogamous man marries 1 wife. She bears him children limited to her own selfishness. Say today, it is 2, 1 or none. To limit her childbearing, she convinces the man to use contraception. Any form of contraception will do. Including Natural Family Planning contraception.
Most men eventually get sick and tired of the same old contraceptive dish, monogamy turned into monotony, and seeks sex elsewhere. His contraceptive thinking gets him a mistress who he has sex with contraceptively. Or prostitution is instituted and they get their rocks off contraceptively on those kinds of women.
So who in heaven ever cares about the sad plight of MEN??? I do! Those men will someday be my SONS! I absolutely care who my sons have sex with. And as a loving and caring father I want my sons to have sex with CLEAN WOMEN. And the best assurance of getting my sons CLEAN WOMEN is through honest MARRIAGE. Not just with 1 wife, but with SEVERAL women.
Why so? Take the case of a non-contraceptive 1st wife who wants to limit her children to 2. As a true non-contraceptive, she will merely REFUSE sex to her husband. Say she is 26 and her husband is 30 years old. Is it at all REASONABLE to expect a 30 year old man to be SEXUALLY inactive for the rest of his life? Of course not!
Intellectual honesty observes polygamous behaviour in both men and women. Humans are polygamous by nature. If you are at all altruistic, allowing polygamy, real marriage is the FAR BETTER honest solution. Especially for MY CHILDREN.
So lets agree on something. I do what I think is best for MY CHILDREN. You do what you think is best for YOURS.
