01.16.07
Posted in Polygamy at 11:58 am by goodsamaritan
Sunday was supposed to be my day reserved to healing my brother’s eczema. Until my grandmother called up and got into the picture. She rode a taxi to our house and relayed to me her dream. She had dreamt that she and I were lined up to church towards the priest when I stepped back and left her all alone. She said it was a premonition. And she wants to bring me into the fold.
She’s darn right about me turning my back on a religion she and my mother adhere to but which I totally disagree upon. The big disagreement I have with their religion is forced monogamy for all. One size fits all. No deviation. Lest you are a sinner and condemnable.
Well la dee da. I vehemently disagree with that monogamy as faith rule I have vowed never to let my children prey victim to false monogamy promises. Let me explain to you why. Of course I lectured my grandma in the language she understood, her own families and my own families. How monogamy works in the real world. At least in my families, it is a farce.
Monogamy is 1st wife centric selfish implementation of human sexuality. In the desire of a first wife to covet sole attention, she sets up laws and unreasonable expectation from her husband and her male children. This unreasonable expection is may you have sexual relations only with one woman, your wife from the time you are born until the time of your death. In short, monogamy unrealistically expects the MALE humans to have sex with only 1 FEMALE for his ENTIRE LIFESPAN. Unbelievable, scientifically false, and observably DISHONEST to the most condemnable depths!
This is why peaceful monogamy in reality works this way. Monogamous man marries 1 wife. She bears him children limited to her own selfishness. Say today, it is 2, 1 or none. To limit her childbearing, she convinces the man to use contraception. Any form of contraception will do. Including Natural Family Planning contraception.
Most men eventually get sick and tired of the same old contraceptive dish, monogamy turned into monotony, and seeks sex elsewhere. His contraceptive thinking gets him a mistress who he has sex with contraceptively. Or prostitution is instituted and they get their rocks off contraceptively on those kinds of women.
So who in heaven ever cares about the sad plight of MEN??? I do! Those men will someday be my SONS! I absolutely care who my sons have sex with. And as a loving and caring father I want my sons to have sex with CLEAN WOMEN. And the best assurance of getting my sons CLEAN WOMEN is through honest MARRIAGE. Not just with 1 wife, but with SEVERAL women.
Why so? Take the case of a non-contraceptive 1st wife who wants to limit her children to 2. As a true non-contraceptive, she will merely REFUSE sex to her husband. Say she is 26 and her husband is 30 years old. Is it at all REASONABLE to expect a 30 year old man to be SEXUALLY inactive for the rest of his life? Of course not!
Intellectual honesty observes polygamous behaviour in both men and women. Humans are polygamous by nature. If you are at all altruistic, allowing polygamy, real marriage is the FAR BETTER honest solution. Especially for MY CHILDREN.
So lets agree on something. I do what I think is best for MY CHILDREN. You do what you think is best for YOURS.
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01.13.07
Posted in Pro-life Issues at 5:24 pm by goodsamaritan
I visited the Pro-Life Philippines office this afternoon and a lone councilor was was there. My innocent question was: “What are the most common counselling queries lately?” Answer: “As usual, female 20-25 years old is pregnant and suddenly abandoned by her boyfriend.”
My follow up question was: “Is the problem because they are financially incapable?”
Answer: “No, they are usually middle class, the women usually come from the provinces, they come to Manila to find work, they become pregnant, and are ashamed / at a loss as to what to say to their provincial families once they come back home. That their in-eutero child has no father…”
So it is more of a shame thing. Fear of societal non-acceptance of a child with an absent father.
But my interest is, why do these certain boyfriends abandon their impregnated girlfriends?
My analysis and main culprit is: The boyfriend-girlfriend relationship is an ambiguously defined agreement between a male and a female which can mean anything which may include NOTHING.
There is the usual accusation that the man only wanted sexual pleasure. Then there is the fact that there are men who want no involvement in the raising of children. Then there is the fact that there are men who are not fond of children. Then there are men who have no money for this new endeavor.
Ah, lack of money. An urban innovation where the cost of child raising is astronomical. Today’s money system is skewed, many people lack money. Of course the money system is ridiculous! This present money system cannot even support the basic human instinct of reproduction. And the greedy money masters / oligarchs / global bankers even have the gall to blame natural human reproduction as the cause of their own poverty!
Money is supposed to serve the people, not enslave them. A better money system must be constructed.
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01.06.07
Posted in Marriage Promotion at 11:49 pm by goodsamaritan
Marrying a career woman may be one of the worst career moves a career man can make. Here you are climbing the corporate ladder or setting up your business in your twenties. Then bam, you hit a big bad road block. You decide to marry a career woman. You miserable fool.
Marriage is a partnership. Just like in business, you need different talents to make things work. Identical talents is redundancy. It’s like a pair of shoes, two right shoes do not make a good pair! Especially with monogamy! Monogamy assumes you can only have 1 wife and 1 husband. Two career people in a monogamous marriage is redundancy.
So what happens when two career people get married? Other than biological differences of male and female sex organs, which makes reproduction possible, there is only constant friction and frustration. There is no support crew. Each career person needs a support crew. Just like a race car driver needs pit people, a career person needs a wife.
And what is my definiton of a wife? A wife is the supporter of the career person. A wife nurtures the career person to grow. A wife sees to it that the home is a comfortable place to live in, a home recharges the career person. A wife sees to it that the career person is fed the most nutritous, life giving meals. A wife sees to it that the laundry is clean and the career person looks good. A wife takes care of the children. A wife enhances, enables the career person to concentrate on succeeding in whatever endeavor.
So what happens when there is no wife? There is no support. Career and family health, success is dampened, or even sabotaged. Redundancy means there is a lack of talent. No wife means no nurturing, no comfortable home, no recharging, no nutritious meals, no clean laundry, no satisfactory child care. Career persons cannot concentrate on succeeding in their endeavors because there is no support. Those who say they succeed do so DESPITE no wifely support. Hired domestic help is far INFERIOR to the support given by REAL WIVES.
The message to career people is… do not marry career people… you must marry real wives, the support person.
The message to wifely-homely men is… you can be the wife and marry career women.
Marry someone who complements you and makes your life complete.
This is merely a suggestion.
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