03.29.06
Boyfriend Girlfriend Relationship is only a license for contraceptive sex
The cliche: 19 year old girl thinks of getting an abortion, calls the Pro-life center. She says she is two months delayed. Pregnancy test kit says positive. Her boyfriend wants her to abort their baby. She does not want to. Boyfriend “breaks up” with her for this reason. Girlfriend is still thinking of abortion…
What is a boyfriend? Spit… some horney boy “doing” your daughter.
What is a girlfriend? Spit… some horney girl “doing” your son.
What is the deal with a boyfriend girlfriend relationship? Have feelings of love, lust, passion, romance… make this the reason for CONTRACEPTIVE SEX ONLY in motels, in cars, in the bushes… babies (your grandchildren) are out of sight, out of mind.
I have had enough of this western post-christian crap called the boyfriend-girlfriend relationship based on “romance” and “love”. This used to work well some time in the past decades when feelings of love immediately led to marriage before any tongues started exchanging saliva.
I have had enough overhearing councelors or books saying that boy-girl relationship should stick to just holding hands. This is ridiculous. A solution that works for 1% of the population. And what about the rest? Telling young people to just hold hands is like having an open LPG stove and a lit match, it is okay… just keep your distance so we don’t start a fire. Give-me-a-break.
Just yesterday I was chatting with the councelor and I told her that my children deserve better. None of this boyfriend-girlfriend bullsh*t. I have been through 6 dumb years with my wife before we got married; and I can safely say, it is not worth it. There has to be a better way for my children. A method with a higher probability of success in achieving the real goal: get married and establish a family.
My children’s future could be like this: boy-girl get to know each other. Chat a little, with chaperons, all the time. Never a moment with just two teenagers with raging hormones. If a match is made. Marriage commences. Unleash those raging hormones in the sanctity of married, life giving sex!
He he he, in a year my grandchildren will start popping out. Success! The circle of life will be completed many times. We are alive!
Whadda you know? The Muslims are correct. There are no boyfriend-girlfriend relationships allowed. Only marriage.
On the part of Christians, here is a nice excerpt from a web site called Courtship Now:
While our culture encourages dating from a very young age, I truly believe
this is not God’s plan for us. (I will address this issue first.) Dating
when we are too young to consider marriage presents many problems.It is often the source of a great deal of confusion, because certain
emotions are brought up while dating that cannot be acted upon when one is not ready to consider marriage. Feelings of love and commitment that cannot be lived out lead to frustration. Often when a person begins dating at a young age there is also the experience of growing very attached to someone and then breaking up. This leads to a sense of feeling “broken hearted”.There are other problems. If you are dating before you are ready to
consider marriage, you might be having a great time, enjoying the pleasures of someone else’s time, attention and affection. But while all this is going on, you are missing out on valuable time and energy that could be put to better uses while you are young! Often when young people begin dating, the time and energy invested in that relationship cause them to slip in their school work or other duties. Often friends become neglected while much time is spent in isolation with the boyfriend or girlfriend. After there is a break up, sometimes a person feels very alone because, having alienated friends during the time spent dating, there is no one there to pick up the pieces after a break up.Not only can time spent in isolation lead to emotional dependencies, but a young couple can easily find themselves involved in a physically intimate relationship. After a break up, they are left to feel hollow, perhaps used, often resentful and usually their sense of self-worth is damaged. This is because they have given something very special and precious to another person and it was ultimately rejected.
Every act of physical intimacy (from kissing to sexual intercourse) is a precious gift of self which should be stored up for the person you someday will marry. Every kiss given away to a boyfriend that you do not marry is a kiss given to someone else’s future husband and stolen away from your future husband! And kissing has the power to unleash all kinds of desires which ultimately want to be consummated in the total gift of self — the act of marriage, which rightfully belongs ONLY within the safe sanctuary of marriage.
Praise be to God, Jesus’ mercy can wash over all our sins. If you have
given yourself away to your boyfriend through sexual intimacy, allow God’s mercy to set you free, by repenting and recommitting yourself to chastity. (If you are Catholic, be sure to get to Confession!) The treasure of your physical intimacy which you have for your future spouse will be restored as you practice the virtue of chastity and as you demonstrate your faithful obedience to God’s laws from now until you marry.Even dating when you are old enough to consider marriage has to be handled carefully, or it can lead to all these same problems of emotional heartache, physical intimacy and the dangers involved. This is why I recommend COURTSHIP. See my webpage discussing courtship.
http://www.courtshipnow.com/about.htmlTime is precious. While you are young enjoy the gift of your singleness,
which is a beautiful gift from God. Enjoy the pleasures of many good
friends — boys and girls alike. But I encourage you to leave dating behind
until you are ready to consider marriage.
