03.24.06
The Contraception Monogamy Polygamy Connection
I have been surfing the HBO Big Love forums and see some very hateful opinions regarding polygamists. It saddens me to see people behave this way. Maybe it is just my Filipino pacifist nature to “live and let live.”
Being a staunch pro-life volunteer and advocate does not make me a robot. Among pro-lifers there are subtle and big differences. The important one is how we view contraception.
There are those in the Pro-life movement who are of the opinion that all contraception is bad, not recommended, including NFP (natural family planning). We sometimes joke about NFP as “catholic contraception.” Contraception is in the mind, not your method. NFP boils down to the same thing, using fertility awareness methods to determine infertile times to be able to ENJOY sex for the sake of sex with the least possibility of pregnancy… this is contraceptive thinking.
I am also into marriage promotion, marriage at the ages of peak youthful sexual energies and beauty. For women, this is in their late teens. For men, this is in their very early 20s. Last time I checked, 18 years old is the beginning of LEGAL AGE for many things including MARRIAGE. But many are deceived by the population control brainwashing that the ages 18-24 is still too young and immature for a large responsibility as marriage. This is total bull. If you as a parent failed to raise and educate your child to be mature by 18, then you are at fault.
It was not too long ago some time in the mid 20th century and earlier when majority of the people in my country used to get married in the 18-24 age bracket. Their families were stronger, intact, and they had more children.
In the USA, polygamy is equated to those of the persecuted Mormons. In my country the Philippines, legal polygamy is equated with the muslims. We do have non-islamic polygamists like former president Joseph Estrada and his nemesis Gov. Chavit Singson, we just let them be.
So what of forced monogamy for all? Monogamy is that concept led and pushed primarily by secular governments like that of ancient Greece, then the Romans, copied then by the later Secular Christians who became the imperialists. These western european christian imperialists were a pushy people who forced upon their forced monogamy only ideals on people they see as inferior: the arabs, the african and the asiatic people. I seem to have seen these remarks on the anti-polygamy laws in the USA. Well la dee da, I am one of those asiatic people and I can plainly report on the ground that many asiatic women see polygamy as one of their good choices in life. Better to share a good moneyed polygamous man than to be stuck with a poor jobless but monogamous man. Poverty conditions in some parts of the world like ours are different. We do what we need to survive.
The institutions of marriage were usually founded on the premise that there is no contraception. I will repeat that. The institutions of marriage were usually founded on the premise that there is no contraception. Plus marriage is done beginning late teens. No contraception and late teens marriage, long life and nutrition can lead to many children. Great! But some women would want to stop at around 5. And polygamous women do just that. They tell their husbands to go get a sister wife to assist them in child care, household, cooking, etc.
In many households in our country today, the more moneyed monogamous people can afford maids to substitute for the wifely duties that dual income pairing has abandoned. Man works. Wife works. Man and wife are reserved for sexual duties and wife for birthing duties, which she refuses to do much because this impacts her career. Of course there are non-contraceptive women in monogamous relationships who happily give birth to 7 or more children. Maids do the wifely duties of cooking, cleaning, taking care of the children and even educating the children. Maids are paid low wages and live with the family. The number 1 important characteristic in choosing a maid is they do not look more attractive than the wife. It is common for a christian monogamous couples to choose to limit themselves to 1, 2 or 3 children because of late marriage and contraception. Maids come and go as they please.
In our Islamic communities today, many choose to get sister wives instead of maids. Sister wives have a right to have sex, bear children and have wifely duties and standing. Their families can have dual or triple incomes and still have wives to take care of their home wifely duties. Polygamous wives are satisfied with a rotating schedule. Missing your husband is a better thing than seeing him everyday they say. Islamics have both monogamous and polygamous families living in harmony. Monogamous christian families dare not cross the paths of islamic polygamous families as their families are stronger and more numerous.
The proof of the pudding is in the eating. Polygamy works for some people. I will discuss these differences in another article.
What am I driving at here? Early marriage + no contraception = many, many children = 1 wife and 1 husband may find it hard to raise on 1 income and without physical help = reliable life long help comes from sister wives rather than maids (whose female rights to reproduce are denied). Islamic polygamists do this very well. Islam is the fastest growing religion in the world. Hard irrefutable facts that scare the pants off of western imperialists.
Forced monogamy is held up by the enforcement of contraception to sap the sexual energies of husbands. Forced monogamists disparage men as pigs and that their sexual energies must be reserved for 1 woman only. But 1 woman usually cannot meet the sexual energies of a youthful man as she can only bear so much children… unless she tricks her husband into happily contracepting; taking in a secret mistress; or resorting to prostitutes. Of course we know that contraception is the root of the anti-life culture… and all hell breaks loose from here.
This is the crux of the matter. Contraception. Contraception. Contraception. Polygamous people are usually non-contraceptive. The men refuse contraception. The women refuse contraception. Babies are always welcome. Additional wives can, do help, and are needed… sometimes.
It is up to the people themselves to decide. Some choose monogamy, some choose polygamy. Live and let live I say. Mind your own business.
