02.28.06
Clarify your definitions of marriage at the start
Many people assume other people have the same view of marriage that they have. This is usually not the case. Look around you, with rampant contraceptive mentality, promiscuity, and boyfriend-girlfriend relationships consuming young people’s minds, their view of marriage has been distorted to mean just about anything.
There are a couple of pointed questions you must ask to see your compatibility and avoid false expectations:
- What are your views on virginity?
- What are your views on contraception?
- How about children?
- Fatherhood? Motherhood?
- Divorce?
- Financial arrangements?
- Boyfriend-Girlfriend concept?
- Religious or state ceremony?
- Monogamy? Bigamy? Polygamy?
This does not seem so hard to accomplish if you compare it with the amount of time and effort most people spend in a “relationship” after a few months or even years and all to no avail.
